Strive to find an attorney to help with the outcome they seek. Avoid attorney driven animosity between the parties.
In our experience we have observed cases where parties start out willing to compromise and work together to end their marriages. At times, these cases turn into costly ugly battles, often caused by overzealous “litigators”. We energetically represent our clients but we do not believe it is in our clients, or their children’s, best interest to create a “War”.
There are cases in which one or both parties look to the courts for revenge or validation. These people are motivated primarily by strong emotion (fear, anger, guilt, etc.). As a consequence they take extreme, black and white positions.
Attorneys often function as “alter egos” for their clients instead of counseling them toward sensible solutions. This is the costliest form of dispute resolution, emotionally and financially.
The only real winners in this type of case are the attorneys.
A “no holds barred” divorce is always destructive for the children involved. Such cases can drag on for many years. Few clients report satisfaction with the outcome of cases handled this way, regardless of who won.
Your attorney should work with your spouse’s attorney to reach an amicable resolution to your case using our experience in mediation and collaborative law.
If for whatever reason negotiations fail and your case goes to trial, your attorney will diligently advocate your position before the court.
There are better alternatives than a “No Holds Barred” war.
We invite you to browse our site for information on alternatives, such as Mediation and Collaborative Law and then call an attorney for a confidential consultation.